Tuesday, December 31, 2013

Goodbye 2013 - Bring on 2014

This time last year I made a resolution to get my health in check for 2013. The positive is I did what it took to make my health better. I had all my routine check-ups and had a hysterectomy in March. The doctor thought it would cure some of my Anemia issues, but it didn’t.

In November I had an endoscopy and a few days later the doctor called me at 9pm to discuss some issues. I’m not sure about you, but if my doctor calls my house at 9pm he’s not calling with good news. My hubby said not to worry, it if were cancer he’d call me into the office to discuss it.

Well, okay – maybe. See the doctor is concerned there’s something going on with my ulcerative colitis. And yes, he used the word cancer. See when someone battles UC for longer than 8 years there’s a higher risk of cancer. I’ve been suffering for almost 14 years. My blood levels are off and I’m severely anemic.

This means my 2013 resolution will carry over to 2014, because I am determine to get my health in check. I refuse to allow the scare of cancer hold me back. I will beat it, if that’s the issue.

Lucky for me I’ve been working two jobs for the last few months so my mind has been distracted.

In a few weeks I’ll have my answers. In the meantime I’m eating better and getting my mind healthy. I’m ready for any battle. I’ve survived a 15 yr abusive relationship and a disease that can wear you down. I’m not going to go down without a fight!

I’m also getting back to my roots. Writing. I have to do what I love and that’s telling stories or helping others with my articles.

Do you make resolutions? Do you keep them?

Oh and I have to add – Happy 7th Anniversary to my husband Sean. He’s my best friend and someone who shares my sick sense of humor. It’s amazing that after all the ups and downs we’ve suffered we can still make each other laugh.

Happy New Year! May 2014 be the best.

Monday, December 30, 2013

Happy Birthday, Connor

4 years ago at 10:29pm I gave birth to a premature little boy. He weighed 10oz. The doctors predicted he wouldn’t survive the delivery. I knew differently. Something in my heart told me the delivery would be okay. I have to thank the doctor who managed to get the breathing tube down Connor’s throat that day and he did it in record speed. He amazed the 15 other doctors and nurses in the room too.

We’d survived the first hurdle – birth. That was only one of many hurdles our son would have to overcome. He had a salt build up and couldn’t urinate. Each hour was a win. I stayed in the hospital with Connor for 5 days before they forced me to leave. I didn’t want to leave my son, but I couldn’t stay…insurance policies and all.

The NICU did allow us to stay in Connor’s room and we did. It wasn’t easy to sleep during those days. Any odd noise coming from the many machines keeping him alive had me on high alert.

On the fifth night Connor peed. He did it right in front of my husband and me. I never felt so excited to see someone pee. Everyone on staff in the NICU found this to be a huge hurdle. In fact his Neo Natal doctor said, “Go home and start pumping. He’s going to need all the breast milk he can get.”

To parents it was one of the best conversations we had. It was a positive sign.

We went home that night with the nurses convincing us it was all good. We slept better that night.

The next morning we walked into his room and I knew immediately something was wrong. The nurse pulled me aside and told me he took a turn for the worse. I cried and demanded to know why they didn’t call me. She said I needed sleep. I need to be rested for the day ahead of me.

They had pumped him full of blood to give us time to call in the family so everyone could say goodbye. He wasn’t going to make it after all. The urination was just a fluke. Maybe it was a sign for us to go home to rest because the next day was going to be the most difficult of our lives.

That day both our families came up and each and every one of them got to hold Connor. We asked everyone to leave and we held our son one last time.

They took him off oxygen. 10:27pm on the sixth day Sean and I sat holding him while he took his last breath. Ironic.

I don’t care if you have 6 hours, 6 days, or 16 years with a child – the pain is unimaginable when you lose them.   

The staff of nurses and doctors at Women and Infants Hospital is an amazing group. I’ll thank them for the rest of my life.